Words of kindness

So, I'm guessing her post was started because I stated that I had no hope for finding anyone after Chris. Because of the baby and everything. Well, a friend of mine saw that and I woke up to this response this morning:

Geeklet, a little bit of reassurance for you:

I have a friend who was in a serious relationship with a former drug addict (also a friend of mine). She got pregnant, they were doing fine for a little while, until he started hanging out with some old friends. Then partying with these friends. Then he'd be gone all weekend. Then he lost his job, started taking money out of her bank account, and eventually it got to the point where she didn't see him at all for weeks at a time, and only knew he'd been in the apartment when she came home to find out that their TV was missing, or some of her jewelery, etc. She eventually got the locks changed and cut off all contact with him.

My point is, at 8 months pregnant, she found someone new, who felt strongly enough about her to start dating her when she was pregnant with someone else's baby; he was even there for the birth. They also had a second child together, and four years later they're still going strong. So there is hope.

Also, I met my fiance when my son was 10 months old. His father has never been in the picture at all, and M. took us on as a family and become little dude's father in every way.

So don't give up on men! If you do decide Chris isn't for you, you do still have options. Being pregnant or having a child just means that a lot of the jerks and man-children are already weeded out for you, because they won't be interested. Think of it as making your job easier.
by Savagery and Eloquence » Today, 11.15 am


Pretty amazing, huh? It's stuff like that that makes me feel like maybe someone could love me. Forget dad and everything he's said, what the hell does he know anyways? Just because he feels he has the right to tell me that no one will want me doesn't mean that no one will want me! He doesn't decide anymore. Period. Time to get him out of my head and actually move forward with my life. Not everything will just sit and wait for me now. This baby is on it's way whether I'm ready or not. It's time to stand up and be there.